Hypnosis for Social Anxiety

by Rodney Inns

Social anxiety is a terrible problem that can destroy people’s lives. People usually have tried everything they can think of that is conventional (mainstream) to get help with their social anxiety, and only then do they look for more unconventional approaches like hypnotherapy. Below I will explain what social anxiety is, the symptoms, how you develop social anxiety and relevant statistics. Then I will go over the different treatments available and finally how hypnosis for social anxiety can help eliminate your social anxiety permanently.

What is Social Anxiety?

If you think you have a social anxiety disorder, you likely have an intense fear of being watched or judged. Those with the disorder feel uncomfortable in everyday situations, such as speaking with friends, meeting new people, or even eating in front of others.

The burden of social anxiety can be significant, and it may affect your experiences at work, when you’re out socialising, and in some of your day-to-day activities. For many, it’s so difficult to make and keep friendships going that they avoid social situations altogether.

At the heart of social anxiety is the fear of being rejected because if you’re rejected, that means you’re not good enough, worthless and unlovable, etc. So people with social anxiety are so focused on being rejected, they are always trying to avoid it at all costs. As a consequence of this, they spend all this time talking to themself in their head instead of talking to others who are not in their head. What they need to do is get out of their head and in the interactions with others around them.

The worst client I saw for this would say yes to every word that I said, so she was essentially talking over the top of me constantly. She did this because she was scared that people would reject her if they thought she was not listening to them. So she would say yes to every word they said so they would know that she was listening to them.

I had to explain to her that doing that would actually irritate people a lot to the point that they would avoid her essentially rejecting her. So her behaviour of trying to stop people from rejecting her actually made them reject her, so by doing this behaviour she was ensuring she would be rejected.

This happens more than you might think saying yes too often or nodding head too often can irritate people it can distract them from what they are saying and get in the way of the conversation even if they are not consciously aware of it, they just don’t like you but they cannot tell you why.

The more common form of social anxiety I come across is where people are scared of being rejected by others that they are so scared of saying anything because they might offend or upset someone, so they are constantly editing themself by evaluating everything they might say how it may be perceived and they get stuck in this analysis paralysis to try and avoid upsetting others.

So they think things like, what if I say that …, how will they react? Will it upset them? Better not, how about … These people may be really slow at responding like they are in slow motion.

The other side of this coin is sometimes in social situations a person’s mind goes blank and they just cannot think of anything to talk about or say. They are constantly saying to them self I don’t know what to say, what should I say, etc.

I also see people with other types of social anxiety, like sweating or stuttering. These are much easier to understand.

Behavioural Symptoms of Social Anxiety

  • Feeling self-conscious and afraid others will judge you
  • Scared of what to say in case you say the wrong thing and upset others
  • Mind goes blank and cannot think of anything to say
  • Staying away from social situations where lots of people gather
  • Avoiding eye contact and speaking with a soft voice
  • Difficulty sleeping
  • A fear of being exposed to unfamiliar people or scrutiny by others
  • A fear of acting in a humiliating or embarrassing way
  • Constantly worrying about daily activities such as meeting strangers or interacting with Others, whether in person or over the phone
  • Blush, shake, stuttering, or sweat in social situations
  • Being the centre of attention

Physical Symptoms Social Anxiety

  • Increased heart rate
  • Heart palpitations
  • Breathing rapidly (hyperventilation) or shortness of breath
  • Sweating
  • Twitches, trembling
  • Feeling tired or weak
  • Lightheadedness, dizziness
  • Choking
  • Dry mouth
  • Chest pain
  • Tummy aches, churning stomach
  • Diarrhoea
  • Blushing
  • Difficulty sleeping and nightmares
  • Hot and cold flushes
  • Feeling tense, wound up and edgy
  • Pins and needles
  • Muscle tension
  • Headaches

Emotional Symptoms Social Anxiety

  • Angry
  • Sad
  • Anxious
  • Guilt
  • Resentment
  • Resentment
  • Shame
  • Useless
  • Not good enough
  • Worthless
  • Unlovable
  • Lost
  • Helpless
  • Trapped
  • Confused
  • Lonely
  • Isolated
  • Failure
  • Exhausted
  • Hopeless
  • Numb
  • Empty

Causes of Social Anxiety Disorder?

The exact cause of social anxiety isn’t known. However, as with many mental health conditions, genetic predispositions and environmental factors are thought to be involved. The different factors thought to increase the risk of social anxiety include:

  • A family history of social anxiety
  • A tendency to misread other people’s behaviours as threatening
  • Having overprotective or highly critical parents
  • Having underdeveloped social skills and a lack of confidence
  • If you experienced teasing, bullying, rejection, ridicule, or humiliation in childhood, you may be at a higher risk of developing social anxiety disorder
  • Childhood trauma, such as family conflict, trauma, or abuse, may also be associated with the disorder
  • Life changes like entering a new school, starting a new job, leaving home, or work-related stress can trigger social anxiety
  • People with health impairments or conditions. Conditions such as facial disfigurement, stuttering, or tremors related to Parkinson's disease may increase self-consciousness and potentially trigger social anxiety disorder in certain individuals

Statistics of Social Anxiety

In the 17-18-year-old demographic, the lifetime prevalence of Social Phobia is 6.9%. In the 18-29-year-old age demographic, the lifetime prevalence of Social Phobia is 13.6%. Social Phobia usually starts during adolescence. Females are 50% more likely to be affected than males.

Not only is social anxiety disorder becoming increasingly common. Approximately 15 million adults in the United States are diagnosed with social anxiety disorder every year, totalling 7.1% of the population. It’s likely that the number of individuals afflicted with social anxiety disorder is even higher than the number of those officially diagnosed. 

While the afore-mentioned statistic only represents adults, social anxiety disorder is actually more common among teens and adolescents. In most cases, the individual began experiencing symptoms when they were only around 13 years old. 

36% of those who have social anxiety disorder report that they experienced symptoms for ten years or more before seeking help.

Many people never get their social anxiety disorder diagnosed. It’s likely that the number of people with social anxiety disorder is much higher than currently on record.


Hypnosis for Social Anxiety Reviews

Social Anxiety

I was suffering from anxiety depression and social anxiety to name a few.

After seeing Rodney for 1 session, I am now living my best life.

I’m 46 and this is the most clarity I have ever had. I am able to put out a lot of positive energy which I struggled with in the past.

I have found that the positive energy is coming back. Happiest I’ve been.

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Hi Rodney

I can’t thank you enough for helping me get rid of the anxiety that I had been battling with for many years. I can’t believe that after having a session with you that all my fears, anxiety have disappeared.

I am so glad that I found you and that I took the step to come and see you.

Wish I had found you earlier. Thank you for your patience and understanding. I am doing things that I haven’t done in years and everybody around me is also seeing the change and outcome of Hypnotherapy.

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Carmin Brown 39

Carmin Brown 39


Having suffered from anxiety for over 15 years, I was always a hypnotherapy sceptic. But I finally gave in and built up the courage to make an appointment! Rodney made the process easy & comfortable.

The journey was amazing! I felt like I was having an out of body experience. Looking down on myself and letting go of all the anxiety & insecurity that i have been carrying with me for so many years.

I felt a sense of release and could finally move forward with my life plan!

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How is Social Anxiety Disorder Diagnosed?

A healthcare provider such as a doctor, psychologist, psychiatrist or therapist can diagnose a person with social anxiety disorder based on the criteria for social anxiety disorder listed in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5) published by the American Psychiatric Association.

DSM-5 criteria for social anxiety disorder include:

  • Persistent, intense fear or anxiety about specific social situations because you believe you may be judged negatively, embarrassed or humiliated
  • Avoidance of anxiety-producing social situations or enduring them with intense fear or anxiety
  • Excessive anxiety that's out of proportion to the situation
  • Anxiety or distress that interferes with your daily living
  • Fear or anxiety that is not better explained by a medical condition, medication or substance abuse

Your healthcare provider, like a doctor, will usually see if the DSM-5 criteria match your experience, your symptoms and history. They may also ask you questions about your medications and do a physical exam to make sure your medication or a medical condition isn’t causing your symptoms.

A person typically has to have had symptoms of social anxiety disorder for at least six months in order to be diagnosed.

How is It Treated?

There are a number of treatment options available to help overcome or reduce social anxiety.

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)

Relies on a premise that different ways of thinking can trigger the development of mental disorders. In CBT sessions, the therapist makes you understand your existing thought patterns and how they affect your anxiety level. The purpose of CBT is to help you change the way you think, so you reduce your anxiety and develop changes in your behaviour.

For example, someone who is worried about talking on the phone at work may avoid answering all calls. CBT helps the person change the way they think of talking on the phone. If you make a mistake, then CBT teaches you tools to work through these. As an example, if you pronounce someone’s name wrong, they will help you deal with situations like this.

Pharmacological Treatments

Antidepressants are used for social anxiety disorder as they help reduce the symptoms by interfering with the brain chemicals. The most commonly used antidepressants for social anxiety disorder are selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs).

Aside from antidepressants, anxiolytic and cardiovascular drugs may be prescribed to make you calmer and ease symptoms like trembling and palpitations.

How to Eliminate Social Anxiety

So the only way possible to eliminate social anxiety is to remove or disconnect all emotions and physical sensations associated with your social anxiety.

Can you think of an acquaintance that you bump into now and then maybe you talk to them maybe you don’t maybe it’s someone you see on the train going to work, well you don’t have many emotions associated with them so you don’t think of them ever unless you see them and you don’t think of them much or for long. This is what will happen when we remove the emotions associated with social anxiety. You just will stop worrying about it.

So by removing the emotions and thoughts of social anxiety, we are effectively stopping you from having any of the thoughts or fears from crossing your mind, you will remember you used to have social anxiety but you just won’t be able to have a social anxiety anymore.

So as you can see, emotions are the cause and solution to your problem.

Remove Emotions Using Hypnotherapy for Social Anxiety?

Well, the only way I know we can achieve this is through using NLP and hypnosis for shyness, by removing the emotions associated with them. But be careful not all hypnotherapists practising hypnosis for shyness know how to work with emotions and remove them.

Different Types of Hypnosis for Shyness

Most hypnotherapy approaches don’t work to eliminate the social anxiety in this way. Most hypnotherapists work by introducing suggestions into your subconscious mind to change your thoughts and hence your behaviours, so it can work great with behaviour problems but not emotions. Unfortunately, most hypnotherapists are taught this behavioural suggestion type of hypnotherapy for social anxiety.

As a Hypnotherapist, I was lucky to be taught by someone who knew how to work with emotions, and I have helped many people with all sorts of problems, including hypnotherapy for shyness by removing anchored emotions from the social anxiety.

So we will remove all emotions and physical sensations that trigger the social anxiety.

Test at the End of My Social Anxiety Hypnosis Sessions

At the end of my hypnotherapy for shyness sessions is a test, I get you to go back to all the times you can remember having a social anxiety and you won’t be able to get any of the old emotions, and physical sensations from those memories. This means you will not automatically go into your old automatic emotions and behaviours from the past because we have broken the old patterns. This is how we know the social anxiety hypnosis session has worked.

These days I am seeing more and more people with this problem and helping them eliminate their social anxiety so they can have a more fulfilling life.

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About the author

Rodney Inns

At 40, I realised I was really unhappy. It was very strange it was like I had been sleepwalking or oblivious. After finding NLP and Hypnotherapy, I discovered I was good at helping myself and others with their problems, so I decided to pursue Hypnotherapy as a career.

After completing studies in NLP and Hypnotherapy. They invited me back to participate in courses as an assistant to help train others over the next 5 years. If you are struggling with emotional and behavioural problems? You’re in luck because I specialise in eliminating emotions.

I believe everyone deserves to be helped. My mission is to help people eliminate their emotional and behavioural problems that are causing pain because I know firsthand how painful it can be to have these problems.

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